Coping with grief- 5 books that will help grieving hearts
Grief is an emotion we all are familiar with. Heartbreak, tragedy, death, all lead your soul crumbling through difficult times. You might feel like you will never get past depression and reach acceptance but it’s important to remember that the pain we feel is temporary, it’s what we do while we’re in pain that changes our lives. It’s also important to remind yourself that you can also mourn the loss of another version of you, old habits, things holding sentimental value, lost memories…every bit of you is as important as anyone else in the world.
Words always wrap their arms around you when you’re lying in your bed, waiting for the pain to dull down to mist. Here are five books that will comfort you while your heart recovers.
- Bearing the Unbearable by Joanne Cacciatore
When someone or something within us dies a traumatic sudden death, it can leave us feeling unhinged from reality. The stages of grief last much longer than any of us try to show. It’s crucial to process this grief rather than bottling it up.
Dr. Joanne Cacciatore – bereavement educator, researcher, Zen priest, and leading counselor in the field- takes us through a wild ride of heartbreaking encounters with love, loss, and grief. She also shares her own struggle with loss and honors the grief we share. Bearing the unbearable becomes a friend to you in these stages of grief. Along with its soothing camaraderie, it also imparts the wisdom of compassion and humanity, sowing seeds for healing healthily in life.
- When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron
When Things Fall Apart is a collection of talks that Pema Chodron gave between 1987 and 1994.
This book involves subjects like using pain to cultivate wisdom, communicating to open up about your pain, reversing habitual patterns, and creating effective social action. Chodron has very wisely provided a path to overcome pain and difficulties in life.
- The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion
An incredibly candid encounter with life, love, death, and grief, in The Year of Magical Thinking, we will see Joan Didion in person with pain and helplessness.
Didion shares the narrative of a beautiful life that is shattered by her daughter’s sudden illness and her husband’s death. Grief-stricken Didion talks about her own misery along with her daughter’s brain surgery to relieve a massive hematoma. A powerful book about personal trauma, Didion has imparted some beautiful lessons of the shallowness of sanity and life itself.
- Grief Demystified by Caroline Lloyd
Grief Demystified acts as a guide to griever or those curious about grief by briefing them about grief in a simple manner.
Providing an accessible introduction to the modern-day grief theory, Caroline Lloyd debunks commonly believed myths about grief. She also advises on communicating with the bereaved and gives an understanding of different types of grief. It’s an interesting read if you want to tackle grief and its mechanics head on
- Resilient Grieving by Lucy Hone
Death and grief are always harsh emotions. Lucy Hone, in Resilient Grieving, gives you tools of positive psychology to battle with these harsh emotions.
Hone talks about our innate ability to grow through the loss by sharing her personal experience with it when her twelve-year-old daughter died in a car accident. By following strategies of resilient grieving and healing by embracing life, Lucy Hone shares some great resources to fill up your arsenal when you war with grief.
Grief is a difficult emotion to process so it’s natural to seek company. Take your time to come to terms with it and then reach out to talk about it, hopefully, we’ll see you on the happy side of life soon!
Author: Alefiya is currently a business student as well as a professional Content Writer and Copywriter. Her poetries have been published in several anthologies, one of them being "The Song of Peace", a noble initiative by The League of Poets. When she's not writing fearlessly unique pieces, she devotes her days to intensive reading. She can be reached at her Instagram @alefiya21 to discuss books, philosophy and whatever our souls are made of!