• About the book:
Not That Bad - edited by Roxane Gay • TW: R*pe. // This is a collection of 30 first-person essays on rape culture. It reminds me of how the collective grief of women - bigger than the masses of all of our bodies mushed together - is our best kept, most violent secret. // I feel grief because most men I know condemn rape as if it is no better than murder, but are too inconvenienced by the labour of challenging or stopping subtle performances of rape culture. As if those two things aren’t related, as if rapists are born, not made, as if an aggression of lesser gravity than rape is understandable. As if it’s not the hundreds of small things - a joke, a debate, a piece of pop culture, a passing comment - that come together to create one big, ugly reality. // An anthology by people who have experienced sexual assault or rape culture - male, female, queer - is such a difficult read when it’s as confessional as this one, but also such a gentle thing - a space of unhurried, thoughtful expression, presented just how it is, not packaged or performed. There are few things as real as the plain honesty of experience. //
• Regarding the quality:
I bought a new one so the paper quality and cover was good. Also,
The book was delivered before time, neatly packed with a free bookmark and lovely note from Santa 😍.